I’ve Been in Your Shoes

My name is Pam and I am someone who has been in your shoes. I know first-hand the feelings that go along with an unplanned pregnancy: embarrassment, shame, disappointment, confusion, guilt and fear just to name a few.

At that time in my life there was so much chaos and negativity in and around me. I was in an extremely unhealthy and abusive relationship with my baby’s father. It became so abusive in fact that I ended up in a shelter for domestic violence victims a couple of months later. At that time I was unable to care and provide for my then 12 year old daughter who was residing with my brother and his family. I knew that I was in no position to take care of a baby….I was struggling to take care of myself. There was one thing I knew for sure however; abortion was not an option.

I did my homework and found out about Nightlight Christian Adoptions. I made an appointment to meet with their social worker. The moment I met the social worker I instinctively felt safe and secure with her. It didn’t take me long to realize that it was God’s will for me to give this child life then give her to another family who would teach her how to live that life.

The support and encouragement I received from Nightlight’s social worker was priceless. She never pressured me, but allowed me to come to my own personal decisions while providing a sounding board when I needed one (and I needed one often). I remember asking how I would know for sure who the right family for my baby was and she said that I would just know. She was absolutely right. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that these were the people God ordained to adopt my daughter.

Thankfully I was able to spend a considerable amount of time with my baby’s mom throughout the last 3 months of my pregnancy which I believe made all the difference in the world. She accompanied me to my weekly fetal monitoring and ultrasound visits. That time together enabled us to develop a remarkable bond of trust, love, and friendship. She was able to share with me about all the heartache that surrounded her and her husband’s battle with infertility. I gave birth to my healthy 8 lb 12 oz daughter and her adoptive parents were in the delivery room with me. What a miracle and gift of God that He was able to use me to bless this amazing and deserving couple.

I don’t know what I would have done or how I would have gotten through this experience if God hadn’t brought Nightlight’s social worker into my life. She was (and is) such an integral part of my adoption journey. It’s awesome because I still keep in touch with her and we will get together for lunch whenever she happens to be in my neck of the woods. The relationship I have with my daughter’s parents (especially her mom) is utterly priceless. I’m so grateful to God for putting this amazing agency, Nightlight, and amazing people in my life. It’s incredible to be a part of something so much bigger than myself.


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