Dear Expectant Parent(s),

You and I are both at a turning point where life has taken a twist we didn’t initially expect. It’s not necessarily good or bad, just different than we expected. You are pregnant and wondering what to do, my husband and I are unable to have a child biologically after more than five years of infertility. From the beginning of our marriage, we’ve been drawn to adoption as the way to grow our family and now we’re ready for this part of our journey to begin. Your decisions may bring our paths together or maybe not. But whatever happens, we’re praying for your life, that you’ll be lead from this turning point to an amazing journey, too.

Personally, I come to the decision to adopt from a unique perspective. I come from a “blended family” because my biological parents were divorced while I was in elementary school and both got remarried when I was in middle school. My new family meant more parents, more siblings, more cousins, more grandparents, and, all in all, more people to love. Families are so much more than biology and there is so much room in our hearts to bring in more people. Adoption fits very well into our understanding of family, partly because of who we are as adopted children of God, and partly because of the personal examples of love in each of our families. Though we both come from big and growing families, there is always plenty of love to go around.

When I met Ryan, I grew to understand love in an even more amazing way. I love this man more every single day, and after eight years of marriage, he’s my very best friend. If I’m stressed or confused, he comforts me. If I’m happy, he shares that joy. He’s a once in a lifetime husband and he’ll make an amazing father. When we decided to adopt, it was with excitement at getting to be parents together, getting to share in the joy of guiding a person through the wonderful journey of life.

cutie pic of us everWhen we bring our child home, our plan is for me to continue working as a business analyst at a large airline and for Ryan to leave his current role at a local airport to raise our child at home. We live in a safe, family-centered neighborhood with pools, parks, and a lake in the middle. At Halloween, children and families walk in between the homes on the lit sidewalks, laughing with excitement. At Christmas, homes are decorated with lights and trees in the windows.

We’re members of a neat church where adoption is very common. Just about every type of adoptive family exists there: domestic and international adoptions, bi-racial adoptions, and foster families. Our hope is that this community will help our child to never feel awkward or different as an adopted person. We hope our child will have adopted friends to grow up with who will understand our family in a way non-adopted children might not be able to.

We both enjoy traveling. We plan to continue our joy of traveling with our growing family. We love to be outside together, hiking in the mountains and by rivers, vacationing at the beach, and visiting theme parks in Florida. We believe life is short and should be fun, exciting and full of joy. There have been less-fun times, too, but we always work through problems together, finding a way to make decisions that are best for our marriage and future family.

As you and I transition into these new and unexpected parts of our lives, please know we care about you and your difficult decisions. We understand these points in life aren’t easy but we do care and are willing to help.


Ryan & Marcia

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Ryan Mother’s Name: Marcia
Occupation: Lineman at the Airport Occupation: Business Analyst for an Airline
Education: Bachelor of Arts in History Education: Bachelor of Business in Marketing
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Date of Birth: March 26, 1982 Date of Birth: January 26, 1986
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Light Brown Hair Color: Auburn Blonde
Eye Color: Very Blue Eye Color: Green
Height: 5’7” Height: 5’5”
General Health: In Great Health General Health: Happy and Healthy

Date of marriage: August 4, 2007

Children: We haven’t met them yet, but we hope to soon enough.

Interest and Hobbies: We like to take sailing lessons, laugh, and travel together. If we’re left to our own devices, Marcia likes to build furniture, run outside, and cook. Ryan likes to read, remodel our bathrooms, and relax with a cup of coffee.

Home: We live in a four bedroom house in a quiet, fun, family friendly neighborhood

Pets: We have one wiener dog named Belle.

Finances: We are diligent to save money each month as a way to provide a safe and secure future for our family.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We’re interested in adoption because we’re excited to be parents and welcome a child into our lives. Adoption is a joining of hearts in an amazing way.

Openness to Birth parents: We’re open to many levels of openness. Whether birthparents prefer pictures and letters or more open conversations, we’d like our family to grow to accept all the love due our child(ren). Let’s openly talk about it.

Childcare Plans: We plan for Ryan to stay home with our child once we bring our baby home.

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 866-832-3678.