It is with our deepest respect and admiration that we write this letter. We believe choosing adoption is one of the bravest, most selfless acts a parent can do. Adoption has intertwined its way in our lives in more than one way. This has provided us with the many different perspectives of adoption for all those involved. We know there are a range of emotions that come with it. With that, we want you to know we support you in whatever decision you make.
Joel and I have been married for almost 8 years. Joel often shares that on our first date, I asked him how he felt about adoption. There was no basis to that question, other than I had always had this deep feeling adoption would be part of building my future family. Joel’s immediate and enthusiastic reply was “Yes!” Eventually when we decided to start a family we were led down a long, bumpy 3-year journey of infertility and longing for a child. We could never have expected the hurdles to building a family. However, looking back we know it only brought us closer and has made us the parents we are today.
In 2010, Adelyn Jane joined our family thru IVF. That same year our nephew joined our family thru adoption from Ethiopia. We quickly became educated and our hearts started to stir for adoption as our next step in building our family. In September of 2012, we started an adoption from Ethiopia. The wait time has increased and we have a minimum of another 2 years. During this time we have also suffered two miscarriages. We believe these “bumps” were intended to lead us to where we are now. We had always planned to adopt more than once – we want our children to have a sibling that they can relate to.
We live in a suburb with a great community and school system. Joel has worked as an insurance adjustor for the last 13-years. His position allows him flexibility and the option to work from home. Heather worked in Sales for 8 years prior to Adelyn’s birth. She then was home for 3-years before taking a part-time/work from home position in Sales. Although we both enjoy our careers; we have always found it important to put our family first.
Adelyn is 4-years old and in pre-school. Adelyn is a happy, empathetic, caring little girl. She often will express her delight in a future brother or sister thru a song, picture or telling us how she is going to share her toys and room. We are confident our journey included her playing the role of “big sister”.
Our parents and siblings all live within 30-minutes of our home. This allows us to fill our weekends and evenings with family time. We are very close with our families and when together there is always lots of laughter. Heather’s sister and brother-in-law adopted two boys. They have provided unconditional support and guidance as we begin our adoption journey. Joel and I are so blessed to have so much support from our extended families as we build our family.
We love to be outdoors. During summer we spend time at a family cabin. Adelyn loves reading books, exploring, playing at the park, and anything outdoors.
We would love for an open adoption, however, we respect and will honor whatever decision you make.
Joel & Heather
Adoptive Family at a Glance
|Father’s Name: Joel||Mother’s Name: Heather|
|Occupation: Insurance||Occupation: Sales (part-time)|
|Education: College||Education: College|
|Religion: Christian||Religion: Christian|
|Date of Birth: May 28, 1979||Date of Birth: March 4, 1979|
|Ethnicity: Caucasian||Ethnicity: Caucasian|
|Hair Color: Brown||Hair Color: Brown|
|Eye Color: Blue||Eye Color: Brown|
|Height: 5’11”||Height: 5’9”|
|General Health: Great!||General Health: Great!|
Date of marriage: May 19, 2007
Children: Adelyn, born December 9, 2010; biological. Adelyn is a bright, outgoing, kind, and creative little girl. She loves to pretend, build, explore and talk about her future siblings!
Interest and Hobbies: We love to do things as a family – bike rides, hikes, swimming, walks, trips to the park, and travel. Joel also plays on a softball league and anything involving athletics! Heather likes to read, bike, cook, and be outdoors.
Home: We have a 4-bedroom, two-story home with a large basement. We live in a cul-de-sac in a great neighborhood where there are lots of parks and kids! We also have a large backyard with a swing set and lots of area to play games.
Finances: Very financially stable and able to save for future needs.
Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We always knew we wanted to adopt and our extended family has already grown thru adoption. Adoption has intertwined its way into our lives in more than one way and we believe it is love that makes a family.
Openness to Birth parents: We are open to building a relationship with you and keeping you updated. We would like for your child to know who you are and how much you love them.
Childcare Plans: Heather will stay at home as long as needed for bonding and will then return part-time (working from home). Joel will also take some paternity leave and reduce his hours to bond with the baby. We will begin with family caring for the baby and then possibly minimal help from a nanny in the home while Heather works. With Heather working from home, it will allow her to be close to the baby and allow for bonding.
We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 866-832-3678.