Waiting For a Child: How do I Pray?

When I started an adoption agency, 20 years ago, I soon learned that the most difficult part of the adoption journey for adoptive parents was the wait.  One of the first programs included adoptions from Ukraine.  Families traveled to Ukraine to select their child. Often these families experienced delays in their anticipated date of travel to Ukraine, where they identified and adopted their children.  These were truly blind matches.  Each one of these children had to be on a registry for at least one year.  Many times families who had a minor delay in getting to Ukraine found out that their children had just “come off the registry.”  If the parents had traveled just a week earlier, their child may not have been available. Once the parents realized this reality, they knew why God had allowed them to have a glitch, such as  finger-printing delays or waiting for a doctor’s letter.

Parents who have adopted domestically and have waited “too long” to be matched with an expectant mother or who have been matched only to have the birth mother change her mind, know all to well the range of emotions that comes with being passed by as the expectant mom selects another couple—or worse—watch as the baby goes home with a mom who may not be ready to parent while the couple  tearfully leaves the hospital with an empty car seat…Yet, when they finally receive their baby, they then understand and often say, “She was worth the wait.”

These stories have happy endings, and within a few months if not any more than a few years, the parents understand why there were delays and even rejections and denials.  But how do parents pray when they struggle to understand why a child waits in an orphanage while the country, which has decided to “become Hague-compliant” puts adoptions on hold, causing scores of children to languish in orphanages instead of thriving in loving families? How can the parents of these children see God’s perfect outcome when we all know that children belong in families and not malnourished and alone in orphanages?

Giving answers to provide hope for these parents is more than quoting a Bible verse.  For 20 years, I have hesitated to writing such words in how to pray while the parents wait. Here is one reason for my hesitation: a long-gone agency would send a list of Bible verses to waiting families that  I sensed had the overtone of “you are just not praying enough, and your impatience is sinful.”  I always felt that “telling” families how to pray was patronizing and did not send a message of empathy.

As waiting parents, we know that God cares for the orphan and unborn child, but how do we reconcile God’s care for this child yet the adoption is delayed or thwarted? More specifically, we each may ask, “How do I pray for my child and his adoption, knowing God is sovereign?”  After all, “He does whatever He pleases” (Psalm 115:3).

Perhaps it is not in the understanding of the delays or denials in adoption that should direct our prayers. Neither is it understanding the dashed expectations that come with receiving a child who has more serious medical problems, or unknown cognitive and developmental delays, or greater emotional issues than anticipated. Rather, it is knowing that God has a plan—whether we know or even like that plan.

Not only have we been told God has a plan, but we also know the character of God. This understanding of God rather than the circumstances enables us to pray for the child for whom we long.

So what do we know about God as we pray for our child?

First, we read in Ephesians 1:3-5 that God chose us for adoption in Him.  If God is in control of our adoption in Him, then he, likewise, is in control of our children’s adoptions. We also know from a few verses down, in Ephesian 1:11, that He works out everything in conformity with the purpose of His will.

God now only has a will and purpose for each one of us—starting with our glorifying Him—but He also has a will for waiting children.  In fact, God has a special place and concern for orphans.

10 Ways to Practically Praying For My Child’s Adoption

  1. Ask God to prepare your heart and minds for your child in realistic and practical ways.
  2. Ask others to pray. God can use these prayers to make your friends and family more sensitive to the plight of orphans, and the needs of birth parents.
  3. Pray that God would protect your child’s body, heart, and mind.
  4. Pray for your child’s salvation.
  5. Pray for your child’s birth parents.  You may never know your child’s birth parents living in another country, God knows who they are.  Pray for their salvation, their comfort, and their needs.
  6. Pray for government officials in Washington and abroad. So many delays and country closings are caused by those who sit in high places (Proverbs 21:1).
  7. Pray for the details of the adoption that God would enable the process to go smoothly according to His will. Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. (Proverbs 19:21).
  8. Pray for those who work on your adoption. We need good health, strong minds, and resourcefulness to accomplish the tasks at hand.  The evil one would does not desire children to be in homes.
  9. Pray for your marriage and that during this time, you and your spouse will grow closer together.
  10. Pray that the adoption process would go smoothly and quickly.

Three Different Journeys to Parenthood, No Greater Joy

Family keeps growing through embryo adoption

Meet Adéye and Anthony Salem – an incredible couple from Northern Colorado.

Are you thinking, “What’s special about Adéye and Anthony?”

Through the years, they’ve built a beautiful family together – a family with nine amazing children; three biological sons, and six adopted sons and daughters, some of whom have special needs. Now, they have a new destiny – one involving human embryos. Adéye and Anthony have been matched with four embryos through the Snowflakes® Frozen Embryo Adoption Program at Nightlight Christian Adoptions.

Why did they choose embryo adoption? Learn more about them, their family, and their decision:

Adéye and Anthony would like to share their journey with you. Follow along on social media – both through Nightlight, as well as the Salem family’s personal pages.



Salem Family:

Adéye’s Blog
Anthony’s Blog


Martin & Krista


Thank you so much for reading our profile and for your consideration. Adopting your child would be such a gift that we would be honored to care for and love. We have always wanted children but infertility has prevented us from having biological children. We are excited that adoption will give us the opportunity to be parents and to have a family. We are Krista and Martin (Marty).

I (Krista) am 41 and a Colorado native. I grew up in Northern Colorado and am the oldest of 5 children. I am very close with my entire family and glad we live close to each other. The family always gets together for holidays and special occasions as well as just a nice Sunday brunch after church. I have an Associate and Bachelor’s degree. I am a meetings and events coordinator for a financial company in Denver. I have a lot of flexibility in my schedule and am able to work from home two days a week and always have weekends free. My mom has offered to be “Nana daycare” on the three days I would have to go to work if we had a child. Marty says I have a great sense of humor, compassionate, kind, loving and a shoulder to lean on for him, family and friends.

Marty is 41 and grew up in a small town in Michigan. He is the middle child in a family of 7 children. He keeps in touch with all of his siblings as well and they live within a 20 mile radius to his parents. Marty has four nieces and one nephew on his side. Marty’s parents are also living in the same house he was raised in and we always make at least 1 or 2 trips a year out to Michigan. Marty has an Associates, Bachelor’s and is working on his Master’s degree. He is a supervisor for the parks department in Denver. He also has all weekends off with the exception of one weekend a month when he is with the Army Reserves. He is a Lieutenant in the Army. I think Marty is a funny, loving, honest man with all of the attributes a good man should have. He would be a wonderful example to his children.

We met when Marty’s oldest sister and my youngest sister set us up on our first blind date, we hit it off right away and 7 months later we were engaged. Unfortunately, we had to wait for about a year to get married because Marty was in the Army Reserves and had been called to duty in the Iraq war. (Marty had rejoined the Army before he met me because he felt like he could still help and make a difference.) When he came home we were married in June of 2010. We have had a wonderful marriage. We both communicate well with each other, and have good hearts toward others.

We bought our house in a great small town in Northern Colorado. We purposely picked this town because it was smaller and a wonderful place to raise children, with great parks and wonderful schools. We love to go for bicycle rides, walks and just be outside. Marty loves classic motorcycles and enjoys riding those as well. I love to swim and would teach our children to swim. We both love watching football and get to go to a game or two each year. We love taking nieces and nephews out to the lake, to rodeos, camping, swimming, the zoo and parks. We attend church regularly and plan to raise a child in the faith. We believe that God has brought us together and helped us through the good times and bad.

We are a loving happy couple; we are just missing the blessing of a child. We are here with open arms and would be honored if you should decide to choose us. We are open to talking to you about what kind of contact you would prefer after the baby is born.

We pray for you and for comfort and peace in your life.


Krista and Marty

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Martin Mother’s Name: Krista
Occupation: Operations Supervisor Occupation: Facilities and Event Coordinator
Education: Bachelor of Arts Sociology Education: Bachelors of Arts in Political Science
Religion: Catholic Religion: Catholic
Birthday: 12/27/1970 Birthday: 6/26/1970
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Blonde
Eye Color: Blue Eye Color: Green
Height: 6’1″ Height: 5’7″
General Health: Excellent General Health: Excellent

Date of marriage: 6/12/2010

Children: None

Interest and Hobbies: Riding bicycles, motorcycles, swimming, walking, camping, music, exploring new towns and places and spending time with family and friends.

Home: A great tri-level home with a room for the baby and plenty of room to play. We have a great fenced in back yard with wonderful shade trees. We are also walking distance to fun parks, a swimming pool and biking trail.

Pets: None

Finances: We are blessed to be financially stable and secure for the future with children.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We both come from large families and we look forward to having children and building our family. We were unable to have children biologically but we have such a love in our hearts for children that to adopt was a wonderful choice for us. We are humbled in the strength and courage that it takes for an expectant mother or parents to choose life for their child. We would be honored to be chosen to raise that child.

Openness to Birth parents: We are open to any level that is agreed upon, we would gladly share pictures, letters, phone calls and visits. We would be accepting of any level of openness the expectant mother or parents would like.

Childcare Plans: Krista would be off work for four months when the baby arrives. Marty would also take a couple weeks off to bond with the baby. After the four months Krista would return to work but be able to work from home 2 days a week. On the three days that Krista is at work her mother would care for the child.

Statement of Faith: God has guided and protected us in our marriage and everyday life. We praise and thank Him for the blessings,trials and his unconditional love.

Type of child we wish to adopt: Newborn to one year old.

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237 or fill out Nightlight’s contact form

Special Needs Adoption Spotlight: Thalassemia

The following is a testimony from an adoptive family and their daughter Bella. Bella is 4 years old and has been home with her family since April 2012.

We had no idea what Thalassemia was when we first received the call from Nightlight Christian Adoptions asking if we would consider adopting Long Luoyue. After talking with a doctor at the International Adoption Clinic in Birmingham, and consulting with our health insurance provider, we prayed. Our hearts were connected with our new daughter Bella Catherine Long Luoyue Pearson and we immediately began to pursue adopting her.

We continued to read and learn about Thalassemia as we prepared for Bella. For two healthy parents with a healthy teenager, the thought of regular blood transfusions was a bit daunting. However, we’ve had Bella home since April 7, 2012 and after having a few transfusions under our belt, we have now set aside all fears.

Initially diagnosed as beta-Thalassemia major, we prepared for regular, life-sustaining transfusions. Today, her diagnosis has been changed to beta-Thalassemia intermediate which means her body does produce some good blood. Although she is still having regular transfusions at this point, those may decrease over time. Bella is one of only three children in our state with Thalassemia.

Thalassemia is certainly treatable and can be kept in check through blood transfusions. Transfusion days are simply a minor inconvenience in an otherwise normal and healthy child’s life. Continue reading

Preston and Carol

Dear Birth Mother:

We are Preston and Carol! Thank you so much for considering us as you choose a home for your baby. We can only imagine that this must be a very difficult time for you and we want you to know that we are praying for you. We understand that birth mothers like yourself are making an extremely important decision and we believe it is admirable of you and quite the sacrifice to consider placing your baby for adoption. Most of all, thank you for choosing life for your child!

We want you to know that we are so excited to become parents and will love this baby for all of our lives. We also want you to know that we plan on raising our child knowing that they have been adopted and want them to know that their birthmother loved them so much that she wanted the very best for them. Longing to provide a home full of love, comfort, laughter, and so much more, we can’t thank you enough for considering us and giving us the privilege of receiving this child!

In Christ,

Preston & Carol

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Preston Mother’s Name: Carol
Occupation: Financial Advisor Occupation: Registered Nurse
Education: Masters in Business Administration Education: Bachelors of Science in Nursing
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Age: late 20’s Age: late 20’s
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Brown Eye Color: Brown
Height: 6’2″ Height: 5’4″
General Health: Excellent General Health: Excellent

Date of marriage: 2/3/2007

Children: We have not been blessed with biological children of our own but thankfully the Lord has placed in our heart the desire to adopt. We are looking forward to building our family through this process.

Interest and Hobbies: Our time outside of work consists a lot of spending time with our friends and families. All of the prospective grandparents-to-be are extremely excited to have a grand-baby. He/she will be the first grandchild in our family. They, along with several aunts and uncles, cannot wait to love on him/her and quite possibly spoil them. Our close friends are equally excited! We are fortunate to have met several life-long couple friends through our church and small group Bible studies. They are such a huge support to us and are praying as we and you move through this process. We love to get together and eat, play games, laugh, and simply have a good time!
We also love to travel and see places we have never been before. Whether it be a weekend or longer away, it is always refreshing to see something new and explore. We like to ride bikes at the beach, kayak, play tennis, and basically spend quality time together. Preston has several hobbies involving golf, cycling, softball, disc golf, tennis, and pretty much anything else outdoors. We would describe ourselves as a couple who love being active and have fun, yet are laid-back and enjoy quiet nights at home.

Home: We live common lives in a cozy home consisting of 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, and a fenced in back yard One of our three bedrooms is already designated as the nursery and we cannot wait until our baby arrives to use it. Our home is located in a safe neighborhood with very pleasant neighbors who talk and interact with each other as we are out and about.

Pets: We have two cats, who I (Carol) absolutely love and who Preston tolerates (but secretly likes).

Finances: We have been blessed to build up savings and investments through our first 5 years of marriage. We also believe in staying out of debt and have paid off all student loans. We feel as though we are financially secure.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: As we approached marriage, we knew we wanted to have children and be parents one day. We had discussed adoption and the possibility that we might want to pursue that option in the future. Having both been oversees on mission trips, we have seen first hand there are children and babies in the U.S. and abroad who need homes. We learned a few years into our marriage we may not be able to have a baby on our own and after a difficult struggle with infertility, we have decided to pursue adoption. We are confident the Lord has a plan for our family, no matter which way He chooses to bring a child to us.

Openness to Birth parents: We desire to have a relationship with the birth family in a manner in which we all agree upon. We desire that this relationship would include pictures and emails. We want the birth family to know first and foremost that this baby is being well taken care of and loved to the best of our ability.

Childcare Plans: Carol plans on taking a leave of absence from work for 10 weeks. When she returns to work she plans to work 2 days per week and child care will be provided by family members and close friends.

Statement of Faith: We believe and have trusted Jesus Christ as our Savior and have a personal relationship with Him and strive to live daily in His grace. We want you to know our desire is to teach our children about the love of God from a young age and pray they will come to know Him personally. We will raise him/her in a Christian home, where our goal is to honor the Lord. We want our children to know they are loved unconditionally by us, but to also know no matter how much we love them, our Heavenly Father loves them even more! We also believe it is important for you to know we do not believe in divorce and we will be a forever home. Our marriage is of utmost importance to us.

Type of child we wish to adopt: Infant

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237 or fill out Nightlight’s contact form

Stephen and Jami

We are Stephen and Jami, and we are so honored that you are taking the time to read this. It is our hope that you will be encouraged as you consider this gracious and compassionate step of adoption.

Our story begins in Pennsylvania where we met. We worked together and had fun together leading children at summer camp. Jami was a camp counselor, and Stephen was part of the staff leadership. We were on the same team for the whole summer of camp competitions. We ran the gauntlet together (getting hit with water balloons and socks filled with flour), yelled with our team as we tried to win the best cheer, and fought together to get the Big Ball to our side. But that was just the beginning of getting to know one another. It was after the summer that Stephen wanted to pursue Jami as a beauty to be rescued, so he asked Jami’s dad if he had permission to date his daughter.

As I dated Jami I experienced how beautiful she is not only on the outside but also on the inside. A couple of years after we met, I finally got to marry this young lady. I look forward to a lifetime of getting to know and love all that she is. Jami carries herself with integrity, humility, and love. The Jami that I grew to know and love is the same at home, at work, at church, and with friends. She has a great sense of humor and is simply a joy to be around. Sometimes I stair at her when she is doing something funny (like yelling gleefully, “We’re almost on vacation!”), and tell her that I could watch her all day. I never know what she might do next. She is reserved, but has the ability to step up and lead. I love watching movies and eating homemade pizza on Friday nights with Jami. My favorite thing about her is that she is incredibly good at loving me. I am not perfect, but she just keeps on loving me as if I was the most special person in the universe. If she can love me well, I know that she will love deeply the little one God brings into our home. Jami makes a great mother as a role model and parent; she aspires to one thing…taking care of her home and rearing children. That focus and desire is exactly what our family needs to grow in life and love.

Stephen has been my wonderful husband and my best friend. 2012 will mark our 10 year anniversary. He truly was an answer to my prayers, and God knit us together perfectly for each other. He complements me well in areas where I lack and vice versa. I think we make a great team! He desires to follow and serve God with his life. He is patient and kind and makes me laugh. In his ministry over the years, I’ve seen him interact with children and teens. Stephen has a way of reaching and connecting with them that allow the kids to open up to him and befriend him. His nieces and nephews love playing with him whenever we all get together. He was raised in a loving, godly home where the standard was taught to be a gentleman. As a result, he continues to open my door to this day. I enjoy being with him, talking with him, especially on our walks together, and laughing with him. He is great with our daughter Madison. She is definitely a “daddy’s girl,” and they have such a special relationship. He is great playing with her and spending time with her. He usually puts her to bed in the evening and that is their special time together. I know Stephen is ready and willing to love and nurture any children that God brings into our home.

In 2010, we were blessed with the gift of adoption. We brought home our beautiful daughter, Madison Grace. She has been such a blessing to our family that we can’t really imagine life without her. She keeps us laughing, and we wondered what we did for entertainment before she came along! She is a happy girl with big hazel eyes that just melt your heart. She loves playing with other children, and we know that she will make a great big sister because she always wants to help mommy. She is well-loved (and spoiled) by our family and even our church family. Every Sunday, there is a lady who always brings her some kind of treat. Madison has brought such joy to our lives.

God has not chosen to let us grow our family through biological children. But we know that God wants to grow our family. And adoption is the best way of demonstrating God’s love for His children. We look forward to the days when another precious child will join our family. We hope you can see by reading this letter that we are deeply in love and committed to each other and to our family. We promise to raise any child we adopt with love, values, and faith. Thank you for considering us!


Stephen & Jami

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Stephen Mother’s Name: Jami
Occupation: Pastor Occupation: Stay-at-Home mom and Reading Tutor
Education: Masters of Divinity Education: One year of college
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Age: late 30’s Age: early 30’s
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Hazel Eye Color: Brown
Height: 5’9″ Height: 5’5″
General Health: Good General Health: Good

Date of marriage: 6/08/2002

Children: 1 girl (adopted in 2010)

Interest and Hobbies: We enjoy visiting different places, watching movies, hanging out with friends and family, reading, games

Home: We have a beautiful two-story home with 3 bedrooms and 2.5 baths nestled in a quiet neighborhood. We enjoy the country feel of the surrounding woods but close to area shopping. We have a nice-sized backyard for games or a swingset.

Pets: None

Finances: We are financially stable and operate a monthly budget to ensure we use what God has given us wisely.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We have always had a desire to adopt because God has given us a heart for the fatherless. After experiencing several years of infertility, we decided to begin the process for adoption in order to start building our family. We know this is part of God’s plan and His unique way in growing our family. After adopting our daughter, we are excited about who else God would add to our family through adoption.

Openness to Birth parents: We are willing to work with the birthparents in a relationship that is suitable for both families.

Childcare Plans: Jami plans to stay home. Stephen’s job allows flexibility also where he can be home at times.

Statement of Faith: We believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God, as the only way of salvation, by faith. He lived a perfect life, died on the cross, shed His blood and rose again three days later. Salvation is a free gift, offered to all who will confess their sins and believe in Jesus Christ.

Type of child we wish to adopt: We are open to any boy or girl, including twins.

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237 or fill out Nightlight’s contact form

Mark and Jena

Dear Birth Parents:

It is with great respect that we write these words to you. What you are considering for your baby is a courageous thing; we are honored that you are taking the time to hear our story.

Our names are Mark and Jena. We have been married 18 years. We are best friends. We met in high school and have been friends ever since. From the beginning of our marriage, we have wanted to adopt. You see, Jena is adopted. She was adopted when she was three months old. So, adoption has always been part of our lives, and we knew that someday we would open our home to a baby; we just didn’t think it would take 18 years.

Why has it taken so long?? Well, life has happened. We have four sweet children. We have three dogs, two goats, one beehive, and a flock of chickens. We are involved in our community: in our church, the kid’s school, in Boy Scouts, and in the music and the arts. We love to go hiking and running. We have a big garden. So, life is busy. But, the one consistent desire through these years has been adoption. We know our family is not yet complete. And, so we wait, knowing that God has a bigger, greater purpose than what we can see.

We have several friends who have adopted from different races and cultures that are ready to help. We have grandparents who are eagerly anticipating another grandchild to love. We have four children who are beside themselves with excitement at thought of having another sibling. We have room in our hearts for more children. Your baby will be welcomed into a large family and community, ready and waiting to love him/her.

So, how do you close a letter like this? We can’t tell you that we will be perfect parents, because we won’t be. But, what we can promise is to love this child forever, without condition. We will tell this child about God’s great love for them. We will laugh with them, cry with them, and never give up on them.

We can’t begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you. We do understand the responsibility you feel. We would be honored to help you.


Mark & Jena

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Mark Mother’s Name: Jena
Occupation: Owner of Property Management Business Occupation: Homemaker
Education: Bachelors in Health Care Administration and Masters of Theology Education: Bachelors in Occupational Therapy
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Age: early 40’s Age: early 40’s
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Hazel Eye Color: Blue
Height: 5’11” Height: 5’8″
General Health: Excellent General Health: Excellent

Date of marriage: 12/18/2003

Children: Grace (16), Luke (14), Joseph (12) and Anna (10)

Interest and Hobbies: running, hiking, organic gardening, playing music on our instruments, having friends over to our home

Home: We live in a brick cottage on about 5 acres. We live in the country, but are only a 10 minute drive from a medium- sized city. Our home sits at the top of a hill surrounded by woods and has a lovely view of the mountains.

Pets: We have two dogs ( a cocker spaniel and a golden retriever), two Nigerian dwarf goats, and 13 hens.

Finances: We are debt free. Jena is blessed to be a stay at home mom.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: Our hearts have always been pulled toward adoption because Jena is adopted. We feel that our family is not yet complete, and believe that this is the directon that God is leading us.

Openness to Birth parents: We are open to contact with birthparents/open adoption.

Childcare Plans: Jena will stay home with baby.

Statement of Faith: We adhere to the Apostle’s Creed. We believe that the Bible is true. We believe that God is love, and He is working out a plan in this world. We believe that forgiveness can be found through Jesus Christ. Bottom line: Love God and love people.

Type of child we wish to adopt: No preference

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237 or fill out Nightlight’s contact form

Baron and Laura

Dear Birth Parents:

Thank you for taking the time to read about us. We feel so privileged to be able to share our life stories with you! Our prayer is that you will seek God in searching for the best life for your child. We have so much respect for the decision you are making in your life right now. Hopefully, our story will
help you in making that decision for your child.

Our biggest goal in raising a family is to raise our children to know and love Jesus Christ as their personal savior. We are Christians who firmly believe in the love of God, the power of prayer, and the hope of an eternity spent in Heaven. Teaching our children to live their lives in a way that pleases God is our first priority as parents. We want them to grow in their faith just as we are growing in ours every day. While we will do our best as parents, we also know that “it takes a village to raise a child”. We have an awesome support system in our family, friends, and church to help us raise our

Our favorite scripture from the Bible since we got married has been Romans 8:28, which states, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” God is working His plan in our lives, and He is working His plan in your life as well. Our prayer is that you will trust Him to work all things together for your good and the good of your baby.

Praying for you,

Baron & Laura

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: Baron Mother’s Name: Laura
Occupation: Spiritual Director Occupation: Office Assistant
Education: Bachelors in Sociology Education: Bachelors in Business Administration
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Age: early 40’s Age: early 30’s
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Blonde Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Blue Eye Color: Hazel
Height: 6’4″ Height: 5’4″
General Health: Good General Health: Good

Date of marriage: 08/28/2004

Children: 1-Natalie (age 2)

Interest and Hobbies: spending time with family, church activities, sporting events, family vacations

Home: 3-bedroom/2-bath home located on a cul-de-sac

Pets: 1 dog – Toby

Finances: Baron works full-time & Laura works part-time/ Financially Stable

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: Our daughter is adopted, and we really feel this is how God wants us to grow our family.

Openness to Birth parents: We are very comfortable with an open adoption

Childcare Plans: Laura would stay at home for first few months, then Mom’s Day Out 3 days per week.

Statement of Faith: We are a strong Christian family. We believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God and we strive to live our lives in a way that brings honor and glory to Him.

Type of child we wish to adopt: newborn to 6 months – open to both genders and all races

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237 or fill out Nightlight’s contact form

John and Dawn

Dear Birthmother,

It is with great sadness and great joy that we write this letter. This is, no doubt, one of the most difficult decisions you have ever faced. Please do not underestimate your courage in giving your baby the gift of life. Choosing adoption for your baby is, yet, one more gift that you will give. I hope you will consider our family when you make this most important decision.

We are a family of five with two beautiful children, Ben and Noah, who live with us, and one beautiful baby girl, Eve, in Heaven. We only knew Eve for a brief time before she died almost five years ago. In her short little life she taught us something very important—that sadness heals and that our family has a lot of love yet to share. We believe that Eve was called to Heaven so that we would have room in our family for another baby who would need our care and love even more than she.

John and I first met each other when we were in high school, and our relationship started about halfway through college. During our time together we have shared many life experiences and each has blessed us with a deeper understanding and appreciation for each other. We think that the children in our home benefit from the closeness that we share.

We think of parenting as a journey, as we find that we learn as much from our children as they learn from us. God gives each of us special gifts and talents and it is such fun to help children discover what theirs’ are. Right now, Ben’s are soccer, art, basketball, theatre, and baseball. Noah loves ice hockey, piano, soccer, art, and baseball. In between all of this we try to spend time together exploring new camp grounds, visiting warm places, and making frequent trips to California where John and I grew up and where we find aunts and uncles and cousins and a grandpa who is a cowboy. We are excited to learn what your baby will love and to introduce him/her to new experiences and family.

We were both raised in Christian families. We recognize the value in our up bringing and we have provided this for Ben and Noah, and we intend to provide it for our new, adopted child. We are privileged to be members of a faith-filled community at our sons’ Catholic school and our church. It has provided us great strength and lends balance to our family.

Both John and I work outside of our home. He is an accountant for a travel company and I work at a local organization that works to prevent alcohol and drug use among youth. We are fortunate that both of our employers are flexible with our work schedules. John stays home three mornings a week while I go to my office. After that I come home and do some work in the evenings when the rest of the family is home and settled down. We both feel blessed to have employers that value our desire to balance our work life and home life, allowing us to be the sole caregivers of our children.

Ben and Noah are anxious to be big brothers. They both have a lot to share about adventure, sports, music, and art. Above all they fill our home with warmth, laughter, and joy.

Thank you for considering our family as you work on your birth plan for your baby. Please know that our family is open to knowing you before and after the birth if that is what you choose. However, we also respect your preferences and will honor however you would like to be involved with our family, knowing that your love will never be doubted.

With Warmest Sincerity,

John and Dawn

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: John Mother’s Name: Dawn
Occupation: Accounting Occupation: Research and Evaluation
Education: B.A. Education: Ph.D.
Religion: Catholic Religion: Catholic
Age: 11-07-70 Age: 09-26-71
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Blue Eye Color: Hazel
Height: 6’1 Height: 5’2
General Health: Great General Health: Great

Date of marriage: 08-01-98

Children: 2

Interest and Hobbies: Most of our hobbies and interests take us outdoors. We like to adventure, camp, and explore. We also spend quite a lot of time doing sports activities. When we are home we take our dog for walks, garden, bike ride, and cook. We love having family picnics at outdoor music concerts in the summer. We also enjoy trying new foods and different restaurants.

Home: We live in a Victorian style home. It has three bedrooms, thee baths, a large open kitchen and family area, and a child-centered backyard with a tree house, zipline, and a trampoline.

Pets: 1 dog, 3 chickens, and 2 ducks

Finances: We are blessed to be financially stable

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We have a beautiful baby girl, Eve, in Heaven. We only knew Eve for a brief time before she died almost five years ago. In her short little life she taught us something very important—that sadness heals and that our family has a lot of love yet to share. We believe that Eve was called to Heaven so that we would have room in our family for another baby who would need our care and love even more than she.

Openness to Birth parents: Please know that our family is open to knowing you before and after the birth if that is what you choose. However, we also respect your preferences and will honor however you would like to be involved with our family, knowing that your love will never be doubted.

Childcare Plans: We are the sole caregivers of our children. Even though, we both have jobs outside of the home, we fortunate to have flexible work scedules and not have to rely on outside sources for childcare.

Type of child we wish to adopt: Newborn

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237.

William & Nicole

Dear Birthparent(s),

Thank you for taking the time to read this and learn about us! We can’t imagine what you are going through right now, and we are so pleased that you are considering us to be a part of your journey. Although you are facing a very difficult decision, we know that because of your strength, all of this can bring about new life and an amazing relationship between all of us!

About Us:
We have always loved to laugh! Laughing and cheesy jokes are what made us such great friends when we first met. We met while we were in college at Olivet Nazarene University. We became close friends, and after 6 months of friendship, we decided to start dating and quickly fell in love.
After we graduated college, we got married on June 26, 2004. We decided that we did not want to start marriage the “normal” way by getting jobs, living in the suburbs, and saving money to buy a house. With this newfound desire to live an unordinary life, we heard about an opportunity through a friend to go to another country for a year and do volunteer work. This sounded perfect to us, and when we signed up through the organization, they had an opening working with teens at a church in Scotland. Instantly we knew this is what we had to do and we signed a one year commitment. However, we ended up staying in Scotland for four years! We loved the culture, kids we worked with, and the friends we made.
While there, Bill developed a city-wide event that brought youth from all over together to build friendships and learn more about believing in themselves and knowing the God who created them. Nicole is passionate about working with people experiencing unplanned pregnancies, and in the town we lived in, there was no center for women to get support. So, Nicole started a crisis pregnancy center in Perth, Scotland. Bill was a huge part of this as well, and soon, many people from the city were involved and volunteering.
Towards the end of our time in Scotland we heard about a church in LA called Mosaic. Bill applied for their 2 year leadership development program at Mosaic and was accepted to start in August 2008. While at Mosaic, Bill became a part of Mosaic’s film team due to his love of film and photography, and after a year was asked to lead the team. After finishing the program Bill decided to find a job in the film industry and quickly moved up the ranks at his company to be the lead Production Supervisor on Titanic 3D.
Nicole’s dream of working with expectant parents continued, and she began to dream about working more specifically with adoptions. So she went to graduate school at Azusa Pacific University to get her Masters in Social Work degree. Then, in July 2011, she got a job at Bethany Christian Services and is working as a pregnancy counselor there. Nicole loves her job and is so happy to see her dream of attaining this job come true. We both enjoy living in Los Angeles and have no plans to move away.

Our Dream of Becoming Parents:
We have always wanted to adopt someday. Our plan was to adopt older children through the foster care system after having children biologically. However, after over 4 years of trying to get pregnant, we went to a doctor and were told that we are unable to have biological children. This was devastating, but we took it as a sign that the reason we were so passionate about adoption, at the start of our marriage, is because our story was going to be defined by our adoption. We made the decision that, for our first child, we would like to adopt an infant. We cannot wait to be parents! We look forward to the possibility of having a multi-cultural family and celebrating the different cultures within our family. We also look forward to hopefully having an ongoing relationship with our children’s birthparents!

About Bill (from Nicole):
Bill is an amazing man. From the start of our friendship until now, he has always made me laugh. Bill is one of the wisest, most caring, hardest working, and funniest men I know. He loves his family (they all call him Billy) and is close to all of them. Some of Bill’s hobbies are film, photography, traveling, and sports. With sports, he especially loves baseball and soccer. Bill has a work ethic unlike anyone else I have known. He keeps his promises and commitments. When things get hard, he doesn’t give up, but instead he sees his commitments through till the end. Bill loves Jesus Christ and follows Him with his whole heart. Bill is going to be a wise, loving, strong and playful father. He is so excited to be a dad! One of my favorite things about Bill is his funny sarcasm and the way him and I can banter! My other favorite thing about him is how I can be confident in him, his decisions and leadership because of his strong character and wisdom. I still can’t believe he chose me. My love for him keeps growing. I am so blessed to be married to such a creative, fun, and loving man.

About Nicole (from Bill):
Nicole was the first girl I ever dated. I’ll never forget the moment we were driving in my Chevy S10 pickup truck, driving to 7-11, listening to the Eagles on CD, and Nicole told me that she wanted to be more than friends. All along I had strong feelings for Nicole but never had the courage to tell her. It was this moment I knew my life would never be the same and in the end I got to marry my best friend. Nicole is such a gentle woman. People confide in her with so much and whenever conflict would arise they would go to her to share their story, complain, or find a solution. By far my favorite thing about Nicole is that she is quirky. Nicole loves to laugh and for this reason she loves to joke around and has made my life so exciting. Nicole is going to be an amazing mother. Seeing her work with the teens in Scotland shows she has so much capacity for love, care, discipline and growth in people. I can’t wait for the day to see a child in her arms that she can call her own. It’s hard to put into words how I feel about her without it sounding cliché, but she is by far the most amazing person I have ever met. I’m glad she had the courage that I didn’t have to start our relationship in that little grey truck.

Bill’s parents have been married for 31 years. He has one older sister named Michelle and one younger brother named Kevin. His sister just got married to a man named Chris in August 2011. His parents, Michelle and Chris all live in Florida. Kevin lives in Northern California. They all have a close and loving relationship. Family has always been very important to them, and we try to visit them twice a year. Bill makes them all laugh with the way he jokes and playfully argues with them. We are always playing games, mini golfing or eating good food with Bill’s family. They are all great cooks, including Bill!
Nicole’s parents have been married for 39 years. She has one older sister named Lisa. Lisa’s husband’s name is Erik, and they’ve been married for 11 years. Lisa and Erik have 4 children! David is 9, Hailey is 8, Aidan is 5, and Marley is 3. They all live in Michigan, and we try to visit them twice a year too. Nicole also has a very close and loving relationship with her family. We miss them all very much and talk on the phone at least once a week. Nicole’s parents really boost her ego with the way they laugh so hard at almost every joke she cracks! We almost always travel with Nicole’s parents, as we all really love traveling.
Both of our families are very excited about our adoption. They cannot wait to welcome a new baby and birthparents into our lives. We are so grateful to have such loving and supportive families.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. We truly wish you well and hope that you find peace and comfort through this journey.

Best wishes,

William & Nicole

Adoptive Family at a Glance

Father’s Name: William Mother’s Name: Nicole
Occupation: Self Employed Occupation: Pregnancy Counselor
Education: Bachelor of Arts in Math Education Education: Master of Social Work
Religion: Christian Religion: Christian
Age: July 12, 1982 Age: January 29, 1982
Ethnicity: Caucasian Ethnicity: Caucasian
Hair Color: Brown Hair Color: Dark Blonde
Eye Color: Blue Eye Color: Hazel
Height: 6 ft Height: 5’6”
General Health: Great General Health: Great

Date of marriage: June 26, 2004

Children: None

Interest and Hobbies: We love to travel, go out to eat, watch movies, play sports, hang out with friend and go hiking together. Bill gets his energy from photography and working on film projects with friends. Nicole re-energizes by meeting up with a friend for coffee or watching old TV shows at home – her favorite being FRIENDS.

Home: We rent a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom unit in a duplex. It’s only a few miles from downtown Los Angeles. It has a view of the downtown Los Angeles skyline from some of the windows. We love how many windows there are and how much light comes in through them. We try and host dinners for our church and friends as often as we can! We like that it is located on a quiet street but not far from some of our favorite cafes, restaurants and movie theaters in Los Angeles.

Pets: We have 2 cats that are orange tabbies. They are brothers that were rescued at 7 weeks old. Hamish has long hair and is chubby. Conan has short hair and isn’t as plump as Hamish, but isn’t skinny!

Finances: Nicole has a full time job, and Bill just recently left his full time job to pursue starting his own business. We have to stick to a fairly conservative budget, but we enjoy that so we can continue to manage our money responsibly and save for our children’s’ futures.

Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We have always wanted to adopt, and after trying to have biological children before adopting, we discovered that we are unable to have children biologically. So that changed the timing with our adoption plans, and we are ready to grow our family through adoption sooner than planned!

Openness to Birth parents: Our desire is to have an ongoing relationship with our child’s birthparents. We believe that it is important for all involved in the adoption to know each other and be a part of each other’s lives. If this is not possible or a birthparents wishes are to not be as involved as we are hoping, then we will definitely respect that. It will not change how we treat a birthparent or how much we love our child’s birthparents.

Childcare Plans: Nicole or Bill will most likely stay at home with the baby. We will both continue to work and may have a friend stay with the baby 2 or 3 days a week during the day.

Statement of Faith: We are both followers of Jesus Christ who is the Son of God. We center our lives around God’s guidance, the teachings of the Bible, and showing God’s love to others.

We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, please contact Nightlight toll-free at 888.933.2237.