It is with mixed emotions that I write this letter. On one hand, we are so excited about the journey we have embarked upon through adoption and that our dream of having another baby in our arms is becoming a reality. On the other hand, it is distressing to think about the painful decision that you have had to make. I am so thankful though, that you have chosen to give your child life, so that our dreams may come true.
Hopefully, as you look through our portfolio, our story and life will reveal itself to you. I will explain here though how we came to this decision of adopting our next child.
Before we were married, we discussed the subject of children. We both wanted children – and at the time, I thought I only wanted one. Although we didn’t understand at the time exactly what it meant, through that discussion we decided that if we couldn’t have biological children, adoption would be the next step. So, the idea of adoption has always been in the back of our minds.
As we explain in our story, God blessed us with two wonderful boys, Nathan and Caleb. It has been amazing how much our hearts have grown with so much love for our boys. We knew we wanted even more children after Caleb, but he had some fairly serious feeding issues and some GI problems that caused him to throw up frequently and unpredictably. We wanted to be sure Caleb received the appropriate care before adding to our family. In February 2008, our family moved into our home we had planned for years to build. Caleb was seeing the appropriate medical personnel and was doing much better. The time felt right to add to our family. However, in a span of one and a half years, we lost three babies – two at thirteen weeks and one at eight weeks. There was no explanation for why we were having the problem of keeping our babies in utero, especially after having two normal pregnancies and healthy babies. We chose to do some basic tests, but in the end, after much prayer and research, felt that we should pursue adoption instead of continuing to take chances of putting our family through more potential disappointment. Although our boys had continued to ask about when they were going to get their sibling after our losses, Nathan was not very happy about hearing we were going to adopt. His thoughts were that through pregnancy we “didn’t have a choice” of having a baby, and I believe he also worried that he would lose his place in our hearts. Phillip and I talked with him, and one night as he was listening to his radio before he went to sleep, he heard a commercial for “children that needed homes”. He came to our bedroom and told us that he had changed his mind and that he was going to have a good attitude and be supportive of our adoption. When we told Caleb, his first reaction was “I’m going to share all my toys with Baby Sister!” (gender was decided!). Needless to say, we are all so very thankful and excited that we have this opportunity.
Phillip is a physician with two partners in a private office, and I stay at home with our two boys. Nathan is in fifth grade and Caleb is in second grade. After Nathan went to a private kindergarten, Phillip and I felt God calling us to teach our children at home. We love it because it allows our family so many opportunities that we otherwise wouldn’t have available to us. The boys are involved in art classes, two local coops that each have classes once a week, classes at our local libraries, soccer, multiple opportunities to attend plays, field trips, and other extracurricular activities. Needless to say, our children are always around other children, and also have the benefit of an education tailored to each of them. We are also very involved in our church. Phillip and I teach a Sunday School class on Sunday, and I also teach a class for ages first through sixth grade on Wednesday night. We participate with as many activities as we can with our children.
Our family is looking forward to seeing how the next chapter in our lives unfolds and a large part of it will be thanks to you. We wish you all the best in your future and pray God’s blessings over you.
Phillip and Susan
Adoptive Family at a Glance
|Father’s Name: Phillip||Mother’s Name: Susan|
|Occupation: Physician||Occupation: Housewive/Mom|
|Education: M.D.||Education: B.S.|
|Religion: Christian||Religion: Christian|
|Date of Birth: 5/5/1974||Date of Birth: 11/4/74|
|Ethnicity: White||Ethnicity: White|
|Hair Color: Light Brown||Hair Color: Dark Brown|
|Eye Color: Brown||Eye Color: Brown|
|Height: 5’9″||Height: 5’2″|
|General Health: Healthy||General Health: Healthy|
Date of marriage: 7/6/96
Interest and Hobbies: Activities with our children, reading
Pets: 3 rabbits, 1 dog
Finances: Stable and sound
Why are you interested in building a family through adoption: Adoption has always been on the back of my mind. After 3 miscarriages and a lot of prayer, this is the way we feel God is leading us now.
Openness to Birth parents: Yes
Childcare Plans: Susan will continue to stay home and Phillip works full time as a physician. We will both love this child unconditionally.
Statement of Faith: We believe in the Lord Jesus Christ as our personal Savior.