To the mother of our future child, As we sit here to write you this letter, our heads are busy with thought. Words will ultimately fall short of perfectly expressing how much we admire you. The courage and love you have for the tiny life that you have been entrusted with is remarkable. We are honored that you would even consider us to be parents for your child. We met over thirteen years ago at a Stater Brothers market. Paul was working as a checker there to pay his way through college and Renee came through his line (Paul likes to say that he “checked [Renee] out”). It was a year after that we had our first date: a romantic 1-on-1 basketball game, a few rounds at the batting cages, dinner at the Spaghetti Factory, and a church service. The excitement continued through one and a half years of dating, and a beautiful June marriage, in the snowy mountains of Wrightwood, during the summer of 1995. Yes, snow in June. We look back and smile knowing just as in our courtship and marriage, God has his incredible way of orchestrating things. Our desire to have children began when we were married eleven years ago, but we wanted to make sure we were financially secure enough to have Renee stay home with our children. After three years of establishing ourselves, we attempted to have biological children. We often wondered why we could not get pregnant, and the doctors offered no explanation. It was not long after that we embraced God’s plan of adoption for growing our family and were blessed with our beautiful daughter, Lydia. Three years after that, our breaths were taken away once again by our son, David. Even though we do not know the cause of our infertility, we are now thankful for it; God’s perfect love graces our children’s faces every day.
Since we both grew up in larger families, and have seen the benefits of such, we desire the same for our children. One thing we do know, life is a gift. We have come to appreciate the miracle of conception; a miracle, a gift, grew within you. You chose to take the hard road rather than the easy way out. Because of your selflessness, we have the opportunity to grow our family once again. We hope that in telling you a little more about ourselves, you will have comfort knowing that if you decide to entrust your child with us, he/she will have all that we can offer. We are each other’s best friend and enjoy spending time together. We are a team, make decisions together, and share all of life’s responsibilities. We support and encourage one another to grow individually and also as a couple. We have a genuine love for each other, for God, and for life. As a family we enjoy the time off that the profession of teaching affords. On weekends, fall, winter, spring, and summer vacations we enjoy visiting local museums, missions, and zoos, exploring deserts and tidepools in southern and central California, and camping at several different State and National Parks. Wherever we go, we often enjoy singing together as Paul leads vocals, and Renee plays the guitar.
We live in a quiet neighborhood that has a small town atmosphere to it. Our cul-de-sac has many young families that are just starting or still adding to their families. Renee is a full-time mom (she was previously a third grade teacher); this allows us to put our children’s needs first. We have already decorated the nursery. Renee has made some of its items and has lovingly shopped for the others. It is going to be a wonderful and cheerful place for our next baby. We look forward to meeting and getting to know you over time so that we might be able to fully care for your child. Know that when we speak of you, we will tell of your strength and courage. Our shared blessing will know that you loved him/her so much that you gave him/her life, and then chose us to be a part of it. For this, we thank you. Sincerely, Paul and Renee We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you need more information about us, or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight at 888.933.2237.
ADOPTIVE FAMILY INFORMATION AT A GLANCE
Date of Marriage: June 17, 1995 Children: We have two amazing, adopted kids: Lydia and David. Lydia (4) loves to dance, do gymnastics, hike, watch animals, and wrestle with her daddy. David (1) enjoys being cute, playing with his big sister, and getting into everything. Interests and Hobbies: As a family we love to travel, camp, hike, visit Disneyland, zoos, museums, and parks. Home: Our beautiful four bedroom, two-bath home is located on a cul-de-sac in a private lake community. It is near the Mojave Regional Park which is home to horses, cattle, and even three camels! Pets: We have four goldfish that Lydia is learning to care for. Finances: We are financially stable and secure. The only thing we owe on is our house, which will be paid off in 8 ½ years. We are also saving money in accounts for our children’s college education. Why are you interested in building a family though adoption: We have already been blessed with Lydia and David through adoption, and look forward to the opportunity our family has to grow once more. Openness to Birth parents: We are completely open to whatever type of contact the birth parents would like to have with our shared blessing. We would be willing to extend our family boundaries to fully include our next child’s birth family through letters, pictures, and/or visits. Childcare Plans: Renee will continue to stay home and raise our children. Statement of Faith: Salvation for all comes through Christ’s sacrifice on the cross through the repentance of sin and acceptance of God’s infinite grace. |
