What’s Your Best Option – Donor Eggs or Embryo Adoption?

Couples dreaming of the opportunity to become parents may experience difficulty in conceiving a child naturally. These couples often turn to alternative methods, such as in vitro fertilization, to help make that dream come true.

In vitro fertilization can be a pricey and time-consuming process – especially if you are faced with purchasing human eggs to create embryos. There are a limited number of women willing to sell their eggs. And on top of that, there are high standards that egg donors must meet to be deemed acceptable by egg donor agencies. Women with excellent school grade point averages, college entrance exam scores, and athleticism can be compensated up to $40,000 for their eggs. Even before a couples knows that a donor is going to be able to produce enough eggs for a successful in vitro fertilization process, much of their money is already spent.

If a family has unlimited time and resources in vitro fertilization may be a worthwhile option, though many couples simply don’t have access to unlimited financial resources. A better alternative for those couples is embryo adoption. More than 600,000 embryos are currently in frozen storage across the U.S., and many of them have been donated for adoption by a couple that has already been through the process of in vitro fertilization. The donors have completed their family – they want to give another couple the opportunity to become parents, and their remaining embryos the chance at life.

The process of adopting an embryo is often more affordable than in vitro fertilization. Embryos are not bought and sold – instead they go through an adoption process similar to the one offered here at Nightlight. The costs involved with an embryo adoption usually involve an agency fee and the costs of the home study and medical procedure. Learn more about the Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program.

China Program – Immediate Needs

I know many of you share our concerns about providing care and finding homes for orphans. It’s been a busy week as there is a lot going on with the China program concerning the needs of numerous children in our partner orphanages. As Director of Nightlight’s China program, please allow me to introduce to you several children for whom we have advocated this week. Please take a few moments to meet these precious kids, pray for their needs and that they find a forever family, consider adopting one of these children, and/or donate toward their care

*Some names have been changed to protect identities. Other children’s English advocacy names are being used as I share their stories.

April Brooke Medical Team

Brooke shown with April, her nannie,
and two caring doctors in China

 

BROOKE – Brooke is a 9.5 month old beautiful baby girl who desperately needs a liver transplant.  She lives in one of our partnership orphanages and needs urgent medical treatment.  Initially, we tried to get her into New Day Foster Home in Beijing for treatment, however, they would not accept her.  The orphanage director agreed to allow her to come to the US for treatment but the provincial government would not agree.  Our next plan is to expedite her adoption file so that she can find a family and come here to be cared for by her forever family and receive treatment.  We are heavily advocating for Brooke on various social media sites and continue to search for a home for her.  This week, Brooke is in a larger hospital undergoing tests to determine the severity of her liver damage and receiving much needed care to help while she awaits a family.  If you are interested in donating toward the needs of Brooke’s current hospitalization and testing as well as preparation of her file – Donate Here

Liu Juan Juan (6)

KY office Executive Director, Lisa Prather,
shown with Cristina from a visit
to China in May, 2014

CRISTINA – Cristina is another little girl in one of our partnership orphanages.  Right before the Chinese National Holiday she underwent surgery to remove a lump from her backside which had appeared and was causing pain. I learned over the weekend that the tumor was malignant and had to share that devastating news with the family who is in the middle of the travel process to bring her home.  We continue to gather facts to determine her diagnosis and prognosis while the family makes a tough decision with very little information.  We have requested that the orphanage run additional tests which include a CT scan, an MRI and blood tests so that the family can make an informed decision concerning her prognosis. We are collecting information to see what the costs of these tests will be.  If you would like to help with these expenses – Donate Here

ANDREW – Andrew is a 2.5 pound premature boy who came into one of our one-to-one partnerships over the weekend.  The orphanage is not equipped to care for such a tiny baby.  The U.S. physical therapist working in the orphanage has done an excellent job trying to teach them that the baby must not go 10 hours through the night without food, that he requires skin-to-skin kangaroo care and that propping his bottle with a cut nipple is unsafe and harmful to his health and development.  At first, the orphanage was not willing to make exceptions however the director agreed to finding a foster mother to care for him.  April bought supplies and trained the foster mother to care for him correctly.  At the same time we began talking to Little Flowers, a foster care facility in Beijing who specializes in caring for premature infants.  The foster mother has done an excellent job caring for Andrew and Little Flowers finally had a bed open up and will accept him!  The orphanage is transporting him from southern China to Beijing this weekend so he can be cared for by Little Flowers. The cost of two chaperones to travel from Southern China to Beijing, including flights, food and lodging, are estimated at $1,500.00.  To help with these costs -  Donate Here

DEXTER & TIMOTHY – Dexter’s file was added to our individual agency list at the request of a family who was considering his adoption after seeing advocacy of him for many months.  After they had made the decision and been approved by our agency to adopt Dexter, we went in to lock his file last Friday afternoon and it was GONE!  The China program director searched everywhere – individual list, shared list, children released files.  Honestly, based on the grim reports we had received of his deteriorating health, we were concerned that he had passed away.  The CCCWA had experienced some computer problems but luckily, worked last Saturday and were able to find his file to put back on our list.  Fortunately, neither I nor his prospective adoptive parents had to go the entire weekend not knowing!  This experienced adoptive family has been given the rare approval to adopt two children at the same time.  Both Dexter and Timothy appear to have metabolic disorders and are very small for their ages.  Dexter, at age 2 years and 8 months weighs that of a 5.5 month old.  Timothy, at nearly 5 years old weighs the same as an average 11 month old.  We are working with the family to expedite both adoptions.  With adopting two children brings additional expenses.  If you are interested in assisting this family specifically, please contact me directly at dana@nightlight.org.

beiliu kids in walkers

April has many of the children in the orphanage
out of their cribs and enjoying the sunshine!

CHENG – Baby Cheng is a little boy who received care through Little Flowers for a severe heart defect.  We successfully expedited his adoption because he needs to be in the United States for further treatment.  His mother is currently in China traveling to bring him home while his father remained in the US with their four other children adopted from China.  Our prayer is that Baby Cheng will remain healthy through the stress of travel and with the transition into a new family.  Pray for Cheng’s mother as she is having to give medication around the clock and is exhausted.  We pray for a successful family reunion and transition and hope for a good report once he is examined by physicians in the United States.  Halfway through the trip, Baby Cheng is doing great!

KATHERINE* – Katherine arrived home 1.5 years ago from China.  She is nearly 3 years old.  She and her parents were on vacation in Myrtle Beach, SC when her mother “Kay*” became severely ill and underwent emergency surgery.  Luckily, Katherine’s paternal grandparents were also vacationing with them.  Kay was in ICU for a while and had trouble being weaned from the ventilator.  I received a phone call from Kay on Sunday afternoon letting me know what had happened and to share with me that their daughter had been in the care of grandparents back in Kentucky for a month.  At the time I spoke with Kay she was still in the hospital but was hopeful that she could return home soon.  Katherine had returned to Kentucky with her grandparents and had not seen either parent for one month.   Kay returned home to KY on Tuesday.  Please pray that she continues to heal. Please also pray that Katherine will continue to show resilience and that the separation from her parents caused by this emergency will not be detrimental to a wonderful attachment which has already been formed.

HAILEY – Hailey arrived home in the US with her parents in August.  She was adopted from one of our one-to-one partnerships and is currently 2.5 years old.  She received her first surgery on Monday to repair her cleft lip.  The surgery went well and she’s doing great.  We can’t wait to see her new smile but, like her family, had fallen in love with her original sweet smile.  Pray that her recovery is quick and remember her as she will be undergoing additional surgery in December.

APRIL – Please continue to pray for April Clark, a doctorate level physical therapist who is working on a part-time basis at one of our One-to-One Partnerships in Southern China.  April’s heart has been broken this week for Brooke and for Andrew as well as the other children who are living in less than optimal circumstances.  She is doing an amazing job of helping care for the least of these while also fighting a system who does not always value the life of an orphan.  I can tell, through speaking with April, she is overwhelmed and saddened, yet continues to see the light of Jesus through her work.  April has extended her stay in the orphanage city this week to help with the care of both Brooke and with transporting Andrew.   It is a true blessing that we have April on the ground in China caring for these children!  Without her inside these walls, we are convinced that some of these children would not have survived.  Because of her, they are given HOPE!  Please pray that April’s spirits will be lifted as she has had a tough week.  We pray that she will be able to see the good works which are being done through her in the name of Jesus.  April has taken an unpaid leave of absence from her job as a Physical Therapist in a major hospital.  Nightlight has committed to financially supporting April for the work she is doing at the orphanage.  Please consider giving a tax-deductible donation toward our One-to-One Partnership program so that we can continue to support April for the excellent opportunity and extra care she is providing to these sweet children. – Donate Here.  To follow April’s blog, go to: www.glory2one.blogspot.com

Robert 1

Sweet Robert

ROBERT – Robert is the little guy we had transferred from our partnership orphanage to New Day Foster Home in Beijing for treatment of hydrocephalus.  We continue to search for a family for Robert.  He is doing wonderfully at New Day.  See for yourself by clicking HERE!

CAMERON – Cameron was a little boy identified when April first arrived in Beiliu as needing additional care.  He was tiny and showing signs of Failure to Thrive.  He was accepted at Haven of Hope and is now thriving in their care.  Cameron is being fostered by an American family living in China.  We pray that his file can soon be prepared so that he can be joined with a forever family!  Please pray that the orphanage will consider preparing his file.  The cost of file preparation for our agency is $200.  If you would like to give toward this, click HERE!

CHILDREN FOR WHOM WE CONTINUE TO ADVOCATE:

Corbin, Jonah, Robert, Trey, John, Amber, Stephen, Jason and Andi

Please pray that Nightlight Christian Adoptions can locate families for each of these beautiful kiddos!

To view information about the children, please go to: http://www.nightlight.org/waiting-children/

NEW FILES

This past week, we received two new files. Both files have been presented to families for review.  We pray that each family will receive a good report from the doctors who are reviewing the file and feel a peace about accepting the referral so they can move forward to bring both children home quickly.

CHILDREN WHO ARE STILL WAITING TO COME HOME

Please remember the children who have already been matched. Most families are either waiting for their Letter of Acceptance or in the travel process and will be traveling soon.  Some continue to work on their home studies and dossiers.  We pray that these children will be well cared for as they await their parents’ arrival.  We also pray for smooth transitions into their new families.

When we are dealing with crisis, we sometimes get behind on regular tasks. Fortunately, I have Hannah Walker as an assistant to make sure that doesn’t happen.  We continue to diligently search for matches for waiting families and work extended hours when China adds children to the shared list.  Our China program continues to grow and our matching numbers have increased greatly this year.  We remain committed to both our waiting families and especially to the children for whom we advocate and serve through our partnership programs in China.  While prayer is always appreciated, our monetary needs at this time are great, especially when we have so many children who require special care.  We ask that you please consider donating to our One-to-One Partnership programs so that we can ensure that each of these children receive the care they deserve.

PLEASE GIVE TODAY BY CLICKING HERE!

 

 

Three Different Journeys to Parenthood, No Greater Joy

Family keeps growing through embryo adoption

Meet Adéye and Anthony Salem – an incredible couple from Northern Colorado.

Are you thinking, “What’s special about Adéye and Anthony?”

Through the years, they’ve built a beautiful family together – a family with nine amazing children; three biological sons, and six adopted sons and daughters, some of whom have special needs. Now, they have a new destiny – one involving human embryos. Adéye and Anthony have been matched with four embryos through the Snowflakes® Frozen Embryo Adoption Program at Nightlight Christian Adoptions.

Why did they choose embryo adoption? Learn more about them, their family, and their decision:

Adéye and Anthony would like to share their journey with you. Follow along on social media – both through Nightlight, as well as the Salem family’s personal pages.

Nightlight:

Online
Blog
Facebook
Twitter
Pinterest

Salem Family:

Adéye’s Blog
Anthony’s Blog
Facebook
Instagram

 

How Embryo Donation Impacts the Donor’s Life

Couples who have pursued in vitro fertilization treatments (IVF) know that sometimes one embryo is not enough. Doctors will often transfer multiple embryos to increase the chances of a successful pregnancy. Any embryos that remain are frozen. If the couple has remaining embryos in frozen storage when their family building is complete they will then need to decide what to do with them.

Have you ever thought about donating your remaining embryos? You could give another couple an amazing gift: the opportunity to become parents, to bring life into the world, and to lovingly raise a child. Tom and Annabelle wanted to give their six remaining embryos an opportunity at life. Watch their story to hear about how they decided to place their embryos for adoption.

Embryo donation can be a very emotional experience, and feeling a wide variety of emotions is perfectly normal. While you’ll feel excited that you are offering another family the opportunity to become parents, you may be apprehensive about who will be receiving your embryos. You might be scared, elated, happy, nervous…or a mixture of all of those feelings at once. That’s why it is important to work with an agency who understands the feelings you are experiencing and allows you to be a part of the process of choosing a family for your embryos.

Work with a respected, experienced adoption agency – The Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program. Our experts understand the unique emotions that come with embryo donation. Visit our website to learn more: www.Snowflakes.org.

New Webinars Focus on Genetics and Adoption – Including Donor Egg/Sperm/Embryo

Family CookingWhen a couple discovers they will not be able to have a child that is genetically related to one or both of them how do they begin to deal with that loss?  There will be no, “she has your eyes” or “he has grandpa’s nose.” A myriad of other emotions attached to loss and sorrow will come.

These genetic losses are experienced by both families pursuing traditional adoption and embryo adopting families.

In addition, when you adopt a child, either a child who has already been born or a child you give birth to through embryo adoption there are some clues you can learn about successful parenting based on the genetic make-up of your child.  Interested in hearing more?

Register today for the Embryo Adoption Awareness Center’s two newest webinars being held in October and a repeat performance in November!

Part 1: Grieving the Loss of a Genetic Child

Part 2: Understanding Genetics for Adoption Success

 

Embryo Adoption: A Blessing for Three Families

Couples who have experienced their own baby blues and have chosen to build their families through In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) may be able to bring joy to another couple’s infertility woes. Through the gift of embryo donation and adoption, couples who have completed their family building and have embryos remaining can donate those embryos to another couple facing infertility in hopes of helping them build the family they have always dreamed of. Embryo adoption offers the exciting possibility of being able to carry their adopted children and offers those children the ability to know where they came from through open adoption.

Embryo adoption agencies will seek to keep the biologically related siblings born through this process in as few families as possible. Sometimes, however, as was the case with the families in this video story, a family becomes complete with one pregnancy and the birth of twins or triplets. Finding a second adoptive family in these situations allows yet another family to experience the joys of adopting children at the earliest stages of development.

There are over 600,000 embryos remaining in frozen storage. That number continues to climb as more families are turning to assisted reproductive technologies to build their families. While embryo adoption may not be for everyone, couples who have experienced the process wish more families would consider the option. “Rather than just getting a bill from the frozen storage service every year, we will know that there is an option for them and there is a way for these children to have a chance,” says Jay White, a genetic parent who is glad that his embryos had an opportunity to experience what they were created for – Life.

To learn more about Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program, please visit the Snowflakes section of our our site.

Freezing Eggs – Delaying Motherhood

pregnant-womanThis past Mother’s Day NBC Nightly News ran a short story about women delaying motherhood in America. The statics are startling:

  • From 2000-2012 the percentage of women aged 40-44 having their first baby rose 35%.
  • From 970-2012 the percentage of women over 35 having their first baby rose 900%!

One solution women are turning to is freezing their own eggs to be used later to achieve pregnancy after they have met ‘Mr. Right’. However, egg freezing can be cost prohibitive for most with an average cost of $13,000 plus annual storage fees.

Many women in America are uninformed about the fact biologically their egg supply (ovarian reserve) viability begins to rapidly diminish after the age of 30. The inability to produce healthy, viable eggs often results in reduced pregnancy rates and higher numbers of miscarriages in women over the age of 35.

For women over 40, getting pregnant is only half the battle as miscarriage rates over 40 are 50% and rise quickly with each passing year.

Embryo adoption may be choice worth considering for those who have delayed marriage or pregnancy. There are over 600,000 embryos in frozen storage in the United States and each year more people choose to donate their remaining embryos from IVF to another family.

Learn more at Snowflakes.org.

Oldest Snowflake Meets Newest Snowflake

Hannah and Ruth LawsonIn July 2014 an extraordinary event took place. Hannah Strege and her family were vacationing and were able to meet Tim and Ruth Lawson. The unusual part of their meeting is Hannah is the very FIRST baby born as a result of embryo adoption and Ruth is carrying the NEXT almost-ready-to-be-born Snowflake baby! Baby Lawson will be Snowflake #380!

Both of these ladies are rejoicing in the new life that is preparing to come in to the world!

For families with remaining embryos, embryo adoption allows them to choose life for embryos that may otherwise remain frozen or be destroyed. Embryo adoption allows the family to choose the family who will adopt their remaining embryos and give birth to their adopted child.

Embryo adoption is an amazing, unique and wonderful option available to help families trying to decide what to do with their remaining embryos AND give those embryos the opportunity to live the lives they were created for!

Learn more about embryo adoption at Snowflakes.org.

Supporting the Children in Families First Act

CHIFFNightlight, the National Council for Adoption and children all around the world need your help.

The Children in Families First Act is a congressional effort to make change for children all over the world. It would improve the way intercountry adoption works – leaving less children languishing and moving more families towards thriving. It would also provide much needed attention to ensuring diplomatic and programmatic assistance is given so that children all over the world can thrive in the full spectrum of family care settings.

Congress will soon leave Washington for summer recess, leaving us with just enough time to make our voices known on Capitol Hill, move CHIFF out of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee and onto the floor for a vote.

Here’s exactly how you can help, starting right now through this Friday (June 23 – June 27):

1. Send these two attached documents (What is CHIFF and Action Plan) to your staff, supporters, families, clients, and friends and;
a. Ask them to take the steps listed in the Action Plan
b. Ask them to send What is CHIFF and Action Plan to their networks and friends
2. Execute the Action Plan yourself, giving special attention to your efforts on social media
3. Post your activities to the CHIFF Facebook page

The Impact of Snowflakes Embryo Adoption

Embryo Adoption is certainly a new and sometime unknown adoption choice for families, but the good news is spreading quickly. The infografic below shows small glimpse into the impact the Snowflakes Program and embryo adoption are having around the country.

Could embryo adoption be the adoption option you’ve been searching for? Learn more at Snowflakes.org.

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